Celebrating our Wedding Anniversary
BC – Before Children
AC – After Children
BC was the time when my husband and I only had each other. We did everything that we wanted. 3 years afterwhich, we decided that we were ready for a child. Our lives changed completely and we never looked back.
Major changes in our life as a couple but with not one iota of regret entering our minds.
However, when my husband and I recently celebrated our wedding anniversary, we did what we took for granted BC and what we had difficulty scheduling AC: we ate, shopped and watched a movie, without an impatient toddler in tow. That day, we focused on each other.
We spent the day gorging ourselves with Starbucks coffee/dessert and Japanese food. And then we watched a movie and walked around the shopping district looking for new tech toys. It was a lot like going out with one of my bestfriends, except that we were both dressed to the nines and were holding hands.
The butterflies in my stomach have long gone away. Instead, it was replaced by a heart that constantly jumps and runs due to motherhood. But hey, I have no complaints. My relationship with my husband may not be as romantically intense but what we share now make for an enduring relationship.
I have always kept in mind that I am not just a parent. I am also an individual and a wife. That day, I enjoyed focusing on being just a wife.
December 1st, 2005 at 6:27 pm
I could relate to that particular experience. However, I guess my approach to becoming a mother and a wife is not similar. I think that it is just a matter of balancing. I know that it is easier said than done. However, by practice it could (in time) become a round-the-clock habit of being a romantic wife and a caring mother in one.
April 30th, 2007 at 3:09 pm
I think it’s really hard to be a parent these days. To make this step you need nerves of steel and decent money at least. Congratulations to you and your family.
July 25th, 2007 at 10:30 pm
Puh-leeze! Having a toddler is NOT exactly time-consuming.