"Raising a child with special needs can prompt reactions ranging from shock and anger to acceptance, courage, and incredible love. Learn how your attitude and commitment can help you adjust to this challenging parenting situation."

As advised by Dianne Sonntag of Babyzone, it would be most prudent for parents with special needs child to do the following:

Don't Block Your Feelings.
Know that You are Not Alone.
Don't Play the Blame Game.
Arm Yourself with Information.
Be Your Child's Best Advocate.
Be Diligent about Your Child's Treatment.
When You've Done All You Can, Relax.
Take Care of Yourself and Your Other Relationships.
Try a New Perspective.

read the whole article here...

And for a few more perspectives which you might want to explore:

Terri Mauro of About.com, herself a mother of 2 adopted special needs children, has tons of information to help you cope. From getting a diagnosis, to SPED, to long-term planning, etc.

The Federation for Children with Special Needs is a center for parents and parent organizations. It was "organized in 1975 as a coalition of parent groups representing children with a variety of disabilities, the Federation operates a Parent Center in Massachusetts which offers a variety of services to parents, parent groups, and others who are concerned with children with special needs".

Ability Online is a free internet community for children with special needs.