Parenting is challenging enough as it is. Taking on your partner's child from a previous relationship or bringing a new partner into your child's life could be even more formidable.

Just like in any new relationship, you cannot expect your stepchildren to immediately form a bond with you. You need to slowly ease into your role as a step-parent and learn not to demand too much from yourself (and from your stepchild). Both of you would need time to become comfortable with each other, form trust and establish that neither of you are a threat to the other's relationship with your partner.

Keep in mind what being a step-parent means. Your role in your step-child's life is different from that of a biological parent, especially if your partner's ex- is still alive. You can, though, play a special role in your step-child's life, as his/her trusted friend, mentor and/or advisor.

In addition, it is also important that your partner understands his/her role in helping you and your stepchild develop a good relationship.

Should you be struggling with Stepfamily issues, find the strength in knowing that the challenge you are currently facing is worth it in order to be with the one you love. Seek support from fellow stepparents who have survived against all odds.

Be strong, be patient and stay in love.